Not The Former Things Blog

When Your Husband Doesn’t Believe Your Child’s Diagnosis Is Real

I am asked this question all the time. "My husband doesn't believe my child's diagnosis is real. What do I do?" I have been thinking about writing this post for years. I am asked this question several times a month and see it in the search history reports showing what brings women to my site. It is a topic my husband and I struggled...Read More
Help! My Child's Only Interests Are YouTube and Video Games

Help! My Child’s Only Interests Are YouTube and Video Games

Is interest-led learning even possible when your child's only interests are YouTube and Video Games? My son asks me to sit with him and watch a YouTube video at least three times a day these days. Sometimes they are funny, Top 10 videos. Sometimes they are science videos that show amazing chemical reactions. Sometimes they are athletes achieving amazing results. I always come in...Read More

I Don’t Want To Be A Warrior Mom. I Just Want To Be A Mom.

I am so tired of being encouraged to be a warrior mom. It's too much and it's so unfair.  We got back significant results from my son's most recent blood tests yesterday. They are extensive. They are the most comprehensive look at what has been going on in his body for three years. They show a child that is suffering. They show this has...Read More

My Favorite Resource For Homeschooling Children With Special Needs

Today, I am sharing very best resource I know of for homeschooling children with special needs. Sometimes, timing really is everything. My boys have taught me this over and over again. My sixteen year old volunteering for social activities this year. (What?) My youngest beginning to read full chapters. (Finally!) When it comes to homeschooling my children, I am learning that timing matters more...Read More

Am I Babying My Son?

I used to ask myself this question all the time. "Am I babying my son?"   "You baby him. He's almost eleven years old and you are still helping him get his socks on straight." "You can't keep treating him like a baby. He is old enough to sleep through the night. You need some tough love here." "You are still helping him tie...Read More

Special Needs Motherhood: Why does this have to be so hard?

My son woke up at 3:30 this morning, his brain ready for the day. He called me in and immediately began talking about chameleons - their habitats, their care in captivity, their coloring, about all the things chameleon. My eyes were barely open. 3:30 AM came way too soon. And through the groggy haze, I closed my eyes and thought, "Why does this have...Read More

Please Stop Blaming Mothers For Their Children’s Anxiety

Blaming mothers for their children's anxiety helps no one. This is our story. Just over a year and a half ago, the psychiatrist said out loud what I knew he had been thinking for months. "You are too wrapped up in his anxiety and psychosomatic symptoms. You are making it worse. I suspect you are just feeding off each other's emotions." He then proceeded...Read More